My husband is oblivious to home maintenance. I don't mean the kind where you bust out the tools and fix something that is falling apart. I mean regular up keep of a "home". Washing rugs, painting walls, redecorating a room. I've been pestering him about painting the inside of our home, but it doesn't register. He asks what color and I can see him bracing himself for whatever comes out of my mouth. I am willing to keep it the same color just as long as we spruce up the place. Perhaps he is afraid of living through a scene similar to the movie "Fools Rush In" in which Mathew Perry comes home to find his new Latina wife Salma Hayek has had her family paint the entire house in bright colors. (In case you have not noticed I make a lot of movie references!)
Anyway today I replaced the shower curtain in the guest bathroom. I have no one else at home to comment on or ask an opinion of it so without thinking twice about it I asked my husband to take a look. Proud of myself having found a "designer" curtain at a bargain price of 65%. off I was awaiting approval. I got a "very nice", but what followed made me want to bang my head against the wall regretting asking his opinion.
He said.. "May I ask a question?" to which I nodded. He then asked "What was wrong with the curtain you replaced?". As a female the question was just insulting! I answered "because the other curtain (one of two which I rotate every few months) I have had for about eight years and I am just sick and tired of looking at it!". I know my verbal lash out may seem rude, but HE KNEW I had purchased the curtain a few weeks ago. I came home exited of my find and justified my spending. No, I did not justify because of him but because I am very frugal and NEED to justify it to myself!! Why was he asking such a question??
Now I am NOT the dreaded stereo type of a wife that spends "his money" going on shopping sprees. I am more than frugal, always looking for a deal and like the average responsible adult trying never to make purchases before meeting all my financial responsibilities.
In all honesty, some of the curtains I've replaced over the last few years have ended up at my mom's or even my grandmother's home. They have been in perfect condition I've just been in need for something different. In the same spirit of letting someone else enjoy something out grown or tired of I have brought home from mom's floor mats, throw pillows and other things.
I have to admit that my husband has never had to tell me to curb my spending, but I guess having had the only say so on money spent and purchases made for so long I might have gotten a bit irritated by his question.
His was a perfectly legitimate question, but it makes me believe he doesn't know the meaning of "making a home". In his old apartment he had a clear shower curtain, what I call a shower liner. It was functional and that was about it. In what I call a home, there is an actual decorative curtain on top of the liner. There are floor mats, at least one decorative thing on the wall and pump dispensing soap as opposed to one giant bar of soap that travels back and forward from shower to sink!
I love my husband, but some times I wonder if he was raised by wolves! I know I am a little dramatic here because his parents are lovely people, but the man HAD BEEN married before! I would think he would be used to a little redecorating.
Perhaps it's because for the last couple of years we've been living very frugal making sure we put a dent on student loans and having lived on "saving mode" to pay for our wedding that he hasn't seen too much redecorating.
I will have to brace myself for more comments, because there is a minor overhaul coming before we host Thanksgiving dinner this year. Honey.. hold on to something!